Looking for love?! Look No further..

We must learn to love ourselves before we can love another.
This is a well known fact now.
Knowing our self worth is so important.

So many times in our life we search for a partner, someone to love us, someone to make us happy. We walk into relationships searching for someone to complete us.

We come with our baggage, we come with our expectations and with all these needs. We come and unsurprisingly we eventually have to leave.

Should we not be going into a relationship already happy, already whole. Should a partner not bring additional joy to your life, not the only joy.

At times we get into relationships, two broken beings feeding of each other’s soul. Two stagnant souls you’ll be, stuck in a rut trying to fix each other.

Instead we should focus on being happy whilst single. When alone; this is the time to learn to love yourself, learn to respect yourself, find out what makes you happy, be happy, motivate yourself, dream big, get out of the bed in the morning for yourself. Focus on being the best you.

If you do this, you will not worry about being single, you will not worry about finding a suitable partner. You will understand there is no need to worry.

When you both do unite, you will help elevate each other to the next levels in your lives. You will enhance each other’s happiness. You will build together, you will inspire each other.

Does this mean we have to be perfect before we enter a relationship? No not at all. We just need to love ourselves.

It sounds so basic, but sometimes we don’t realise we don’t love ourselves, until we start loving ourselves.

-Dionne MT-

Breathe Think Write Release



34 thoughts on “Looking for love?! Look No further..

  1. Reblogged this on Author -Carole Parkes and commented:
    This is the secret to true happiness, and if you can’t love yourself because of something you’ve done or not done, you first have to forgive yourself. What’s past is done and can’t be changed, but you can learn from it. Build your new life from now, this minute, this very second. We are all worthy of self love.

  2. I love this. This is certainly true. I’ve been the person to be co-dependent towards a lover, and I’ve also been on the receiving end of someone being co-dependent towards me. It’s not a good way to love. It’s quite unhealthy. Thanks for sharing.

  3. I have been focusing on myself for the past three and a half years and I have finally, after 38 years, learned to love myself. I really do. I take care of my body, my soul, and my life. It’s liberating loving oneself:)

  4. Definitely appreciate these words very much. Salient piece.

    You know, in my life have taken to following some simple rules, and rule number one is breathe. Its helped me literally, hundreds of times. Its one of those things that helps with outlook, with grounding yourself, with stress and coupled with that is health.

    Your “Breathe Think Write Release” reminded me of some of those initial words. Cheers on the writing as well. Keep up the great work!

  5. I just discovered your blog and I’m so glad I did! Your message here really resonated with me. I’m looking forward to reading more ❤

      1. You’re welcome, Dionne! I’m looking forward to reading more on your blog 🙂

  6. I have KE Garland to thank for sending me over here. I love this post. I’ve recently started a relationship and I think the secret to why it’s going so well is that I wasn’t really looking forward to it when it came and while I love my new partner, I can imagine a world without her. This might sound worse than I intend it to but because I’m comfortable with being alone and don’t necessarily believe in the idea of ‘the one’, I know I could survive without her but consciously make the effort everyday not to. Great post!

  7. It’s tough to love yourself when you’ve been emotionally abused within a toxic family. To be told you are worthless, stupid and virtually ignored during your childhood you believe that is the case, following you into adulthood, and it’s difficult to shake off, For myself, I had to have a therapist validate my feelings and she was the first person to show empathy that should have been done when I was a kid.

    Words are cruel, but it takes time to realize self-worth, be able to believe in yourself and your accomplishments. Great post. Deb 🙂

    1. Scars definitely do run deep. I’m so glad you’ve been able to reach a place where you can see your worth. It really can take a life time but with time and work we can all get there. Thanks For the comment Deb 😃 -Dionne –

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