Falling in love does that not mean just as quick as you’ve fallen in love that you can fall out of it? Love and relationships it’s a tricky thing if you ask me. 

A lot of the time we meet people and we want to fall head over heels in love and run off in to the sunset, have little love babies and build white picket fences. We grow up imagining a perfect situation almost like the fairytales we grew up reading or watching. If only relationships were as simple as this. 

For me I feel relationships and love are more than just a feeling. Yes we can have that feeling, the butterflies in the stomach, the take my breath away when you kiss me feeling but can relationship really be sustained on this feeling alone? What happens when things get tuff or hard situations arise? What happens when you’re no longer on a high and real life sets back in, normality resumes.. working life, children, bills, health problems and just life in general. What happens then?

Everyone is different and we’ll all have different views on this but I look at the world and I see so many people going from partner to partner not because there has been anything wrong with those they’ve chosen not to commit to but because once the euphoria wears off they then seek that feeling from somewhere else. Once the honeymoon period rubs of and it’s not all dandylions and roses the feeling of love they once had disappears.

Is falling in love the wrong way to go about things? Falling in love.. Is that not just a natural consequence when two people spend time putting energy into each other? 

Love and relationships are much more than this feeling. Don’t get me wrong I need that feeling and connection to be drawn to you, to be drawn into wanting to sustain a long term relationship, but to sustain that relationship it’s about making a choice to commit to each other. A commitment to love each other regardless of each other’s flaws, it’s a choosing to love that person as a whole not love that person because of the way that person makes you feel. 

If we go down the route of falling head over heels for someone a point must come when we make a conscious decision to set aside the feeling and simply love the individual for who they are.

Love and relationships.. it’s not just a feeling it’s a choice, it takes conscious effort on both sides.

-Dionne MT-

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